Let’s be real: no one fantasizes about the paperwork part of an elopement. But if you’re planning to tie the knot and make it official, it’s gotta be done. Here’s the good news—it’s not as daunting as it sounds. Whether you’re eloping in Missouri, dreaming of the mountains in Colorado (where your dog can legally sign as your witness, btw), or going full jet-set and getting married abroad, I’ve got you covered. So grab your favorite snack, buckle up, and let’s figure out how to make this shindig legit.
First Things First: Making It Legal in Missouri
Missouri is a pretty chill state when it comes to getting married, which is great for those of us who don’t want to deal with a ton of red tape. Here’s the rundown of what you’ll need to do:
Step 1: Get Your Marriage License
- Where to Go: Head to any Recorder of Deeds office in Missouri. Both of you have to show up in person (no skipping out, sorry).
- What to Bring: Valid photo IDs (driver’s license, passport, etc.), proof of your Social Security numbers, and about $50-ish for the fee. Pro tip: Check the county’s website where you’re applying for exact requirements—they can vary slightly.
- The Waiting Period: None! You can get married the same day you pick up your license. Missouri is all about instant gratification, apparently.
- Expiration Date: You have 30 days to use your marriage license once it’s issued.
Step 2: Have an Authorized Officiant
Missouri requires a legally recognized officiant to marry you. This can be a judge, clergy member, or even your friend who’s ordained online. (Yes, your buddy who just became a “minister” on a whim can totally do the honors.)
Step 3: Sign the License
After the ceremony, your officiant and witnesses will sign the marriage license. Then, it’s your responsibility to file it with the county Recorder of Deeds to make it official.
Cool Elopement Law Fun Facts
Because every state has its quirks, let’s talk about some of the coolest ones—starting with the absolute best in my opinion:
Colorado: Your Dog Can Be a Witness
Yep, you read that right. In Colorado, you don’t need an officiant or witnesses to get married. This means your furry friend can put their paw print on your marriage license. (Honestly, how badass is that?) Colorado also allows you to self-solemnize, which is perfect for eloping couples who want an ultra-private ceremony.
California: Beach Wedding, No Problem
California’s rules are pretty straightforward, but here’s a fun tidbit: You can get married on any public beach without needing a special permit (as long as it’s a low-key affair). Just keep in mind that everyone around you becomes an uninvited guest.
New York: The 24-Hour Rule
If you’re planning to elope in New York, there’s a mandatory 24-hour waiting period after getting your license. So, plan to take in some Broadway shows or pizza in the meantime.
Thinking About an International Elopement?
Ah, the dream: saying “I do” in front of the Eiffel Tower, on a beach in Bali, or in the rolling hills of Tuscany. But getting married abroad comes with its own set of rules. Here’s what you need to know:
Before You Leave the U.S.
- Research Local Laws: Every country has different requirements for foreigners to get married. Some may require a residency period (hello, French bureaucracy), while others make it super simple.
- Apostille Certification: Some countries require documents like your birth certificates or affidavits of single status to be translated and apostilled (aka certified for international use).
- Marriage License Abroad: Find out if you need a special marriage license for the country you’re marrying in.
When You Get Back
- Check U.S. Recognition: Most international marriages are recognized in the U.S., but double-check the laws in your home state just to be sure.
- File Your Marriage Certificate: You might need to have your foreign marriage certificate translated and filed with your local courthouse.
Eloping Is About YOU
Here’s the thing about elopements—they’re meant to be about you two. Not Aunt Linda who’s insisting on a buffet or your second cousin twice removed who doesn’t even know your last name.
Why Eloping Rocks
- No Guest List Drama: You don’t have to cater to anyone else’s preferences.
- Intimacy: It’s just you, your partner, and maybe a handful of loved ones (or your dog, if you’re in Colorado).
- Flexibility: Want to get married at sunrise on a mountaintop? Go for it. Feel like tying the knot in a neon-lit dive bar? Why the hell not?
A Few Stress-Free Tips
- Choose a Location You Love: Whether it’s a scenic forest in Missouri or the cliffs of Ireland, pick a spot that feels meaningful to you.
- Hire Vendors You Trust: From your officiant to your photographer (ahem), having a team that gets your vibe makes everything smoother.
- Do What Feels Right: Traditions are cool—if they’re your thing. If not, ditch them and make your own rules.
Your Day, Your Way
At the end of the day, your elopement is about starting your marriage with intention. Whether you’re signing paperwork in Missouri, letting your dog officiate in Colorado, or exchanging vows under the Tuscan sun, the most important thing is that the day reflects you.
And hey, if you need someone to capture it all—whether it’s editorial-style wedding photos, vibrant and colorful wedding photography, or quirky elopement moments—I’m your gal. Let’s create something true-to-life, authentic, and undeniably you.
So, what are you waiting for? Let’s make it legal and make it unforgettable. Cheers to love—and all the cool, weird, beautiful ways we celebrate it.
