Feeling Like the Wedding Industry Doesn’t Get You? Yeah… That’s Because It Doesn’t.

Weddings are supposed to be about love, right? So why does the wedding industry seem so fucking hellbent on putting that love into a very specific, boring box?

You know what I’m talking about… If you’ve ever scrolled through Pinterest or flipped through a bridal magazine and thought, “Wow, literally none of this feels like me,” you’re not alone, babe. The wedding industry has spent decades catering to a very specific kind of couple—the kind that fits neatly into the traditional mold.

Straight.

White.

Church wedding.

Big ol’ guest list.

A gown that costs more than your first car.

Matching pastel everything.

If that sounds like your worst fucking nightmare, I see you. Actually, I am you. Because, let’s be real: not everyone dreams of a ballroom wedding with a 5-tier cake and a DJ who still thinks the “Cha Cha Slide” is a banger (it is, but you know what I mean? Not more of a banger than the 360 remix with yung lean).

Anyway, If you’re reading this, chances are you and your partner are anything but traditional. Maybe you’re queer, maybe you’re alt, maybe you’re both, or you’re just two people who want to celebrate your love in a way that actually feels like you. And that is fucking awesome.

So, welcome. You deserve a wedding experience that doesn’t make you feel like you’re playing pretend. And you deserve photos that don’t just capture the day—but capture you.

The Wedding Industry’s Problem: It Wasn’t Built for Us

Dude, the modern wedding industry is a machine. It’s built on traditions, expectations, and let’s be honest—a metric shit ton of capitalism. The whole system is designed to push couples into spending thousands on things they don’t need, on timelines that don’t make sense, and in venues that feel more like performance spaces than places of deep, personal significance.

And if you don’t fit into the industry’s narrow idea of what a wedding “should” look like? Well… Good Luck, Babe!

For queer couples, non-traditional couples, and just generally offbeat humans, planning a wedding can feel like trying to squeeze into a suit that was never tailored for you in the first place (been there, done that, like actually).

• You call a venue and get asked, “Oh, which one of you is the bride?” (Even though there is no bride??? wtf?)
• You meet with vendors who assume you want light and airy photos because “that’s what everyone wants,” when really, you’re dreaming of punchy, high-contrast, gritty flash photos that feel like a page ripped out of Thrasher magazine.
• You scroll through website after website filled with cookie-cutter wedding images that feel more like stock photography than real human connection.

It’s exhausting. And honestly? It’s bullshit. YAWN!

The Truth: Your Big Day Should Look However the Hell You Want

The best thing about weddings today? You can quite literally do whatever you want. There are no rules. No wedding police. No arbitrary timeline you have to follow.

Want to get married at your favorite bar with neon signs lighting up the background? Do it.
Want to elope in a leather jacket and combat boots? Fuck yeah.
Want to skip the whole “walking down the aisle” thing and just shotgun a beer together instead? Honestly, iconic.

If you take away one thing from this, I’m begging that it be this: Your big day is about your love—not about making other people comfortable. Not about traditions that don’t make sense for you. And definitely not about squeezing into an industry mold that was never meant for you in the first place.

The Photos: Because You Deserve More Than Just ‘Pretty’

Alright, let’s talk about the part that actually lasts from your wedding day. (Because the pizza gets eaten, the flowers die, and those overpriced shoes? Probably will end up in a box somewhere, let’s be completely honest.)

Your photos are THE ONLY THINGS that remain. And if you don’t feel seen in them, what’s the point?

You don’t just deserve good wedding photos. You deserve wedding photos that feel like you. That look like you. That reflect the weird, fun, messy, chaotic, beautiful love that you and your partner share.

That’s why I don’t do stiff, awkward wedding photos. I do wedding photography that feels alive. That feels like you on your best, most in-love, most electric day.

• Direct flash, double exposures, and film-inspired shots that feel nostalgic and real.
• Movement, energy, laughter—because standing still and staring at the camera is boring as hell.
• Editorial-level cool posing (yes, I’ll direct you!) to make sure you don’t just look like yourself—you look like the absolute badass you are.

Finding the Right Photographer Who Gets It

So how do you make sure you’re hiring a photographer who actually gets you? One who isn’t just slapping a “LGBTQ+ friendly” sticker on their website without actually understanding what that means?

A few things to look for:

1. Their portfolio actually reflects diversity. If their website is filled with the same straight, white, pastel-wearing couples… move along, babe.
2. They actually ask about you and your vision. If a photographer is just handing you a cookie-cutter shot list without asking how you want to feel in your photos, they’re not the one.
3. They hype you up. Your photographer should make you feel excited, seen, and badass—not like you need to shrink yourself to fit into some pre-set wedding aesthetic. Ew.
4. They don’t just say they’re inclusive—they show it. Look at their website copy, their social media, their past clients. Are they actively showing up for queer and alternative couples? Or are they just checking a diversity box and boosting their SEO with some vague ally-ship jargon?

Your Love, Your Rules

At the end of the day, your wedding is yours. Not your family’s. Not your friends’. And definitely not the wedding industry’s.

You get to decide what it looks like. You get to decide what it feels like. And you get to decide who captures it.

So if you’ve been feeling like the wedding industry doesn’t get you? That’s because it wasn’t made for you. But that doesn’t mean you don’t belong.

It means you get to rewrite the rules.

And if you want someone behind the camera who’s all in on your vision—who’s down for the weird, the fun, the nostalgic, the real—then let’s talk. Because you deserve wedding photos that actually feel like you.